Gut-Wrench in the Closet
Over the past 2 years, I have undergone a gut-wrenching faith transition. I am still a faithful member of the LDS church. However, I look at the world much differently. I say gut-wrenching because my journey has been accompanied by a good bit of anguish, pain, anger, disappointment and loneliness. Navigation has been difficult for me…..and my family.
For the first 7 months, I thought that I was completely alone in searching out new truths. Little did I know that there were, and are, many treading the same path. But, that was not initially evident. There was a part the LDS culture that I was naively unaware of. Much of the history and doctrine of the Mormondom is forbidden to discuss at church. Asking certain questions in public or in private yields judgment but no answers.
The suppression of honest discussion causes a number of unintended consequences. I have personally experienced several. I have also witnessed the difficult experience of others. 1 1/2 years ago, I started suggesting to my local ecclesiastical leaders that there was a need to find a way to discuss troubling issues. As the months have passed, I have watched as more and more friends and family walk away from the church that they had once been so committed to. All of them had basically grappled in private with their gut-wrenching faith transition.
So, absent any other venue for open & in-person discussion, I’ve started a Talkeria. A casual sit-down to kindly and respectfully talk.
The Mormon Talkeria is meant for both believing Mormons, ex-Mormons and anybody in-between. Whatever path a person chooses or has chosen, judgment has no place here. Discussions are not intended to try to sway anyone to leave, stay or come back to church. Rather, this will be a place of support for the journey each has chosen.
I am not an expert at anything. I’m certainly not a professional counselor. That’s not the purpose of The Talkeria. It’s simply a venue for talking face-to-face and friend-to-friend.
If you find yourself in any of these situations, let’s talkeria.
- LDS history and doctrine are troubling you, family members or friends.
- You have a child who is doubting or has left the church.
- You have a parent, sibling or friend who is doubting or has left the church.
- Your faith has changed, and you are having difficulty interacting with family or friends
- Your faith has changed and are having difficulty in your marriage.
- The faith of your spouse has changed and you are having difficulty in you marriage.
- You are gay, in or out of the closet.
- You have a gay child, sibling or friend.
Not in Houston?
Well, that’s pretty much 99.9% of everybody reading this. But, if you would like to be a part of the discussion, feel free to send an issue my/our way. We’ll chew on it at our little Talkeria and share whatever wisdom might pop out.
written by Sam Young
Mormon Talkeria – Houston, Texas